Monday, May 25, 2015

it was the style at the time

Lets see if I remember how to do this.

Me: So do you think I've changed at all in the past couple of years?
Child Who Shall Remain Nameless: Well, your style has.
Me: Oh really? How do you think my style has changed?
CWSRN: Well you don't wear overalls anymore.

Sunday, March 29, 2015

sunday randoms

This weekend was a bit of a whirlwind. I spent it with ML at a volunteer conference. So it was full of meetings, seminars, discussions and team building exercises. Yeah, I did all that and it was fine. I lived to tell you all about it. Here's the thing Shanny a few years ago wouldn't have made that trip for all the gold in the world. Shanny a few years ago would have shriveled up and died at the thought of sitting at a table and having a discussion with people she'd only met 30 seconds prior. Overall it was very good. I learned a lot, heard a lot of good ideas and met some interesting people. I learned I have two dominant leadership styles, participating and coaching, but I can access the other two (delegating and directing) if the situation requires it. That was pretty interesting. I wonder if the people I've "lead" would agree with that assessment?

We also had the chance to watch a TED Talk on Positive Youth Development that was completely fascinating, not just as a leader of young people, but as a parent. It was all about finding a youth's spark and using it to help them thrive. There's definitely a post rolling around in my head about that one. Honestly, I can't stop thinking about it.

To circle the wagons back around to my original point..... Saturday was a full day of talks and meetings, beginning at breakfast and going until dinner time, then we attended a banquet (the food was incredible all weekend!) and by nine o'clock I was done. I may be light years ahead of where I was in terms of how I am able to manage myself socially, but I ended my day completely exhausted. That was a incredible test for the new Shanny and she pretty much rocked it, but jammies, one of my besties and a Jason Batemen movie back in the room as exactly what the doctor ordered.

And to make this weekend completely perfect I got to hug a friend that could really use one and I found exactly what I needed for our spaghetti dinner in the quantity that I needed.

Oh and I stopped panicking about spaghetti dinner coming together. I know we'll rock it just like we rocked the three prior to this one. I always just want this to be the best event I can make it because I don't want to let my Jersey Girls down after all the hard work they put into this and I certainly don't want to let down the people we honour with this fundraising. I am very excited to have the Jersey Girls be a Juravinski Cancer Centre registered team, so all of our fundraising will go straight to the JCC to help with the purchase of a new anesthesia machine. It's an incredible opportunity to be a smll part of such a great community project. If you're local and haven't bought your April 11th Spaghetti Dinner tickets..... you're not going to want to miss this, message me for details.

Monday, March 23, 2015

she cracks me up.... most of the time

This morning found me home with an under the weather Abby. Which meant that Maya was home as well instead of going to the sitters. She was not excited about that change of venue, but that's a story for another time. Now yes, I am a working mother and don't very often have the chance to send the kids off to school in the morning, but it's sort of my business to have an idea of how that process works.

Maya: Mom, can I get ready for school yet?
Me: No, you don't have to leave for another hour.
Maya: Are you sure?
Me: Positive.

Fast forward 7 minutes.

Maya: Now? Should I get ready now?
Me; No, it's literally been seven minutes since you asked the last time.
Maya: Are you sure?
Me: I'm positive.
Maya: Are these clocks right?
Me: They are.
Maya: Do you even know what you're doing?
Me: I do.

Fast forward twelve minutes.

Maya: Shouldn't I be getting ready for school?
Me: Not yet.
Maya: Are you sure I haven't missed my bus?
Me: Yes I am 100% sure.
Maya: Are you really sure these clocks are right? Grandma doesn't use this clock, she uses the clock in the living room.
Me: It's fine. You're fine. You haven't missed your bus.

Repeat this process several more times before I finally let her get ready for school and we head out the door.

Maya: Did we leave at the right time?
Me: A couple of minutes early even.
Maya: Why did we leave early?
Me: Because I didn't think you could wait any longer.
Maya: I don't think we did this right, where's (the other girl who waits for the bus with her)?
Me: Maybe she's sick too.
Maya: Are you sure you know what you're doing?
Me: I am.
Maya: Okay never mind, you do know what you're doing.
Me: Well thanks for that.
Maya: Well those kids are out for the bus too.

Zero faith in her mother, but total faith in the neighbour Mom.

Sunday, March 22, 2015

sunday randoms

I am feeling a little out of sorts this weekend. I had to pass on an opportunity that I really did not want to pass on. It left me feeling more than a little crummy. To complicate matters that yucky feeling I usually get around this stage of the planning game showed up this weekend. That "oh no this is going to be a disaster" feeling. Which is total crap of course and I know that, but you gotta be careful when you hit a low spot.

So I took the advice of my favourite mental health professional and set it all aside for the day and checked out Cinderella with the kiddos and Granny, we threw in a dollar store shopping spree, lunch and a lap around the mall for good measure. I had just sent out my "sorry I have to decline" email before I left, so my stomach was a bit of a rock and I panicked a bit about the state of our Jersey Girl finances, but some quick figuring with my calculator eased that worry.

Don't I just sound like a delight? It's all just a big work in progress you know and I managed it pretty well if I do say so myself. I lost myself in the movie, I thought it was well done. The kids enjoyed it as well and we're all dying to check out Inside Out when it hits theaters.

Laundry is the bane of my existence...... that is all.

I'm thinking a few more hours in the day would be beneficial. Or maybe just being able to go without sleep..... but I kind like to sleep, so......

I think I'll call quits on today and start tomorrow refreshed (after I had my coffee!)

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

even the little one thinks i'm lame

Me: Hey My, can you pass me Dad's cell phone.
Maya: Mom! Nobody calls it a cell phone anymore.
Me: They don't?
Maya: No.
Me: What do they call it then?
Maya: A phone, Mom. It's a phone. You want me to pass you Dad's phone.

Monday, March 16, 2015

world down syndrome day

The girls and I spent some time this afternoon preparing our #CoffeeOnRicky gift cards. You can read the story behind the hashtag here.


This year I had two dollars loaded onto 21 gift cards with the idea that the kids and I would drop there here and there as we made our way around town this week. Tonight we took a small handful with us on our weekly library visit and stashed them here and there.


The girls and I giggled over my favourite Ricky stories as we stuck on the labels and stuffed the envelopes. I love so many things about this project, it makes me incredibly happy and sad at the same time. I hope whoever happens to find a #CoffeeOnRicky card this week an tell how much we all loved him and  feels a little bit of his beautiful sunshine.

Monday, March 09, 2015

hey there

I need to find some time to blog. Yes, things are busy and crazily spinning almost out of my control at times it seems, but it's that good kind of crazy busy, ya know. So typically I would blog late at night after everyone was tucked into bed for the evening because keeping myself exhausted was my anxiety coping method of choice. Now I'm tired and when I'm tired I go to bed and shockingly enough, fall asleep as soon as I get there. The days of this chick being up for hours after Mike and the kids have gone to bed are long since over. Now a lot of the time I am in bed before Michael.... which is a whole post of it's own, let me tell you. In this new configuration, we are not what you would call compatible sleeping partners.

So time to write, it's hard to come by. Well it's not. I typically answer emails and get myself caught up to date with all the facebook happenings when I get home from work. I could blog then, but I'm also not used to blogging with interruptions (Mom, can I borrow your hoodie? Mom can you make me a waffle? Mom can you make sure syrup goes in all those little holes? Mom can you sign my test? and so on and so on). I guess I'm just going to have to push through it, teach one how to forge my signature, teach the other one how to toast her own after school waffles and then I'll be set. Right?