Sunday, August 21, 2016

a beautiful good-bye

I, along all of Canada (except my Compound Wife TC, which was such an incredibly shocking bit of news that we are now in Compound Couples counseling) watched the Tragically Hip's last concert in utter awe and more than a few tears shining in my eyes. Admittedly, I was less emotional than I had anticipated being. There is something incredibly wonderful and awe inspiring of watching some one live with such incredible grace. I can only hope to achieve a fraction of that.

I don't really know what I want to say about the show. I have so many words, but I fear I don't have the ability to string them together in anything that conveys the true depth of what happened Saturday night and to be fair, far more eloquent writers have written the shit out of it already. Go read them all if you have the chance.

Fully Completely was the soundtrack of this Sunday morning in Blogmotherland. I asked Abby if the music struck a chord in her or if it just wasn't to her taste. Bear in mind this is 14 year old with ear buds permanently affixed to her ears. She listens to a lot of music, is what I am saying. She said, "it's not my bag really, but if you're dancing, I'll dance with you". Not a total fail, I guess.

At that point I tried to explain thirty years of The Hip to her. How they were more Canadian than Canada. How they and their songs were us, her Dad and I, her Uncle Dave...... everyone of our generation. How not achieving mega success across the border made them just ours. Something ultra elite. Like the secret warehouse district party that you need to know the code word to get into. I tried to explain how beautiful and out of this world their lyrics were. How they were so deep despite their, some time, simplicity. How the night before would never happen for a Justin Bieber. And I guess that right there is the problem, there is nothing comparable for her generation.

Thursday, August 18, 2016

my happy little tree

It can be easy sometimes to let the petty little annoyances that come along with day to day life to pile up. When they roll over you spaced too close together it can be hard to shake them off. I was having a few days like that. Most of my nearest and dearest will tell you I am fairly easy going and don't really sweat the small stuff. Sure, I may grumble about the shopper hogging up 77% of the aisle while I am shopping, but you can bet your bottom dollar and I had a warm smile and a genuine, "no, no, that's okay" for the poor soul when I finally am able to maneuver my way around them.

So I had a couple of days where I was using the hashtag #ShannyHatesEveryone, pretty liberally and by liberally I mean I used it in a text to Mike and another one to my compound wife, TC. I was full of grumbling and cursing and really just hating everyone-ish, which Mike always finds hysterical in the beginning, as it is out of character for me.Lest you think I am a saint, the last two days have proven I can be as cutting and cold as the next asshole. It's when this behaviour ticks past the 24 hour mark that Mike begins to get nervous. Usually that's when things start to turn around on their own anyway. I have far too much amazing in my life to be down for long, but this time was different.

It may have been because the kids were out of town, so I had no one to model good behaviour for and having celebrated 20 lovely married years with Michael this week..... well he's seen all the bad parts already and still likes me, so I was free to let it off the chain for a while, but it wasn't enjoyable at all. It just isn't me. In the midst of all the angry-ness I got a last minute-ish invite to one of those paint nights. You know the thing, at the bar and then you paint a picture. My default was to say no.... because you know #ShannyHatesEveryone, but I knew I really needed to say yes.


The state of things by Paint Nite, were not much better. I may have told Mike I "wasn't fit for public consumption" at which he laughed.... nervously, and suggested maybe I should cancel. It was a highly appealing thought, but I soldiered on.


This is my, "Oh my Gawd, I can't paint that" face.


The other girls in our group could paint that...


Turns out I could too!

More importantly I had a super fun and great night out with some of my favourite chicks and totally rewired my thinking. Just the break from myself that I knew I needed. Thanks so much for the invite you lovely gals!

Saturday, August 06, 2016

sweet summer time

Oh hey... hi there. So lets shorthand this, shall we? Took a little writing break for a myriad of reasons and you know how it goes, the longer the break, the harder it is to get back into the swing of things. So lets see if we can get this rolling again.

We are midway through the hottest summer ever and despite the brain melting heat we are managing to find some summer loving....

Blue Jays baseball (Go jays go!)
The Olympics (Go Canada go!)
Stranger Things (What the hell is happening?)
New to us patio furniture (So much lounging!)
Palm Bay (Pineapple Mandarin Orange)
Iced coffee (Delicious & refreshing)
Pokemon Go (Gotta catch em all)
Volunteering (High school community service hours!!)
Creating (Red ribbon chasing!)

What are you summer loving?

Sunday, April 03, 2016

sunday randoms

So kind of a big week/weekend around here.

My very best texting friend/future compound wife married her guy this week. Super duper happy and excited for them both and only a titch jelly that they already went to a Jays game. But yeah, over the moon happy for those two. They deserve every happiness in the world. Congratulations again guys xo

We tackled and finally completed a little home improvement project that has been on the books for many year and with minimal swearing, so yay us! The girls now have satellite TV in their Lady Cave and this Mama doesn't need to listen to her two children and one man child fight about what we are watching on TV. The fact that this project got wrapped up just before the Jays opening game of the season are completely related. Go Jays go!!

In amongst all of that it is still spaghetti dinner around here all the time. I think this year is going to be a record breaker. I am so excited only 6 more days!!

This Billion Dollar wreck show has me completely hooked. Anybody else watching it?

How was your weekend?

Sunday, March 27, 2016

sunday randoms

Happy Easter y'all. Hope you had a great long weekend. Ours was on the quiet side, with only one big dinner at Granny's. The rest of the weekend was spent on spaghetti dinner errands and talking about spaghetti dinner and putting out spaghetti dinner fires and posting on the internet about spaghetti dinner oh and spaghetti dinner, spaghetti dinner, spaghetti dinner.

Yep, we are in the home stretch now. Two more weeks and it will all be a distant memory.

There are a lot things about this year's planning that make it feel like it's the first one all over again. Which is equal part exciting and nerve wracking.

Still made time this weekend to binge watch some Schitt's Creek, watch a movie with the oldest, cracked the spine on a new book, started re-routed some co-axial cable and of course the pinata party on Plants vs Zombies 2.

Ugh Mike went to bed and left some Nostradamas documentary on.

Oh he also got me hooked on that show, Billion Dollar Wreck. Will they find that gold or won't they?

How was your weekend? 

Monday, March 21, 2016

happy happy day

So it seems like it was the International Day of Happiness this past weekend and y'all know I like to celebrate as many fake holidays as I can, so it seems like the perfect time to list those little things that make my life happy. I mean it goes without saying that Michael and those girls of ours are dead centre of the things that make me happiest, but what about the zillion little things?

Things like.....

Coffee dates with Auntie KK.
Oh and double date night with Auntie KK.
Lazy summer wine and cheese nights with JB.
Evenings spent with friends playing cards.
Board games.
A really good burger.
Sharing a good book.
Volunteer projects.
Iced coffee.
Green tea.
Hot coffee.

What makes you happy?

Tuesday, March 08, 2016

international women's day

Happy International Women's Day y'all.

This "holiday" was getting a lot of play on social media today as things like this tend to these days. I will admit IWD was not something I thought a lot about until I heard the following on the radio this morning..... In honour of IWD who is a woman who has influenced you?

Well the long answer is lots of them in various little ways, but then I spent the day thinking about who the biggest ones were.

My Mom. Obviously. Cliche, sure, but also very true. If my Mom taught me one thing I would have to say it was to tie my shoes........ kidding, but she did do that too. No I think the most valuable thing is that life is going to be shitty sometimes, but you can't use that as an excuse or a crutch or a free pass to act like an asshole. And those sucky moments, they don't define you. They are a part of your history, but they aren't you.

My Grandma. My Mom's mom. At her knee I saw what unconditional love was in the truest sense. She also taught me that loving someone doesn't mean always liking them and/or what they are doing. Also life is shitty sometimes, it's better to handle it with grace (wonder where my Mom got it from).

Auntie KK. She taught me that you can do for others for only so long and then you have to take care of yourself. And if you're smart you'll keep those scales balanced before it becomes a problem.

ML. She let me ride her coat tails when we first met, the whole time showing me the person I could be.

Grateful for those ladies and their influence in my life thus far is a true understatement. I don't have enough words to adequately thank them for the gifts they are to me.